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So, I think I've been depressed for a while now.. the thing is I got used to being sad and down all the time.. nothing affects me anymore.. not even my long-distance boyfriend. I'm 16 year old female who does not feel anything anymore. I used to love my boyfriend so much, and now I don't know what happened.. it's not just with him its with every person I know.. even my best friends and my family.. they just annoy me.. I find no pleasure in anything anymore.. Sometimes I find myself happy with everything and I get my love back for him and everyone.. its just so frustrating.. my mother thinks its just because of hormonal changes in my teenage years.. but is it possible that I just dont love my beloved ones anymore? I feel crazy..
To me, it sounds like you hit the nail on the head in your first sentence: depression. Several symptoms of depression, which is incredibly common in your age and gender group, include loss of feelings, apathy, and anhedonia (lack of ability to take pleasure in things). Additionally, hormonal changes certainly can cause havoc in a teenager's life (I was there once, too!). I can imagine how the possible combination of hormones and depression would make you feel lost, so here's my two-fold advice:
Seek help. Don't feel like you're somehow weak or insufficient by going to a counselor. I have close personal friends who highly recommend counseling as a way to deal with day to day issues as well as something as serious as depression. Anti-depressants can completely change your life around and cognitive behavior therapy (the most common therapy treatment for depression) has been shown to work in most cases. Clinical depression isn't something to mess around with.
The second part of my advice is to fully open up to those that love you and you love yourself. Fighting this war will be so much easier with support at your back. It seems that you've open up to your mother a little already. Don't stop! You'd be surprised how much just talking about what you're feeling may help. Talk to your boyfriend, talk to your best friend, talk to your siblings (if you have any). They want to be there for you and help you. I know it seems scary to face this thing by yourself or even with help, but the first step is always the hardest. And know this: you are NEVER alone. Some studies have shown that roughly one in three adults has had depression at some point in their life. Find those people and learn how they overcame it. This isn't something you have to tackle alone.
Good luck, and remember that there is always something worth living for, if you look hard enough.
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Thank you SO much! I am seeing a CBT now, and I had never heard of them before you said something here. Not joking at all but I am pretty sure you saved my life. I will always owe you a debt for taking time out to point me in the right direction. You can never know how much this helped. Thank you again!
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