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So my boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. We have a great relationship and we plan to keep it that way for forever.
We are in a really great spot right now. I am 25/f and he is 28/m. He just graduated with his masters degree, and I finished my program certification last year. I have a great job and he's got tons of people interested in him with the degree that he has. We just moved in to a new apartment, and in short, our lives are good.
I've always said that I wanted to wait until we are in a stable spot to get married, and I think right now we are. I'm just not sure how to bring it up. There's always that stereotype that girls are just supposed to wait and let guys decide when it's time to get married because they are the ones proposing. If my boyfriend would allow it, I would propose myself (lol) But I know that eventually, he would want to do that.
So anyways. I'm jsut not sure how to bring it up. I don't want to be the naggy girlfriend always bugging him to get married. I just want to know that he's thinking about it and that it's in our future.
Thanks for any and all input! (link)
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In modern relationships it's normal to start discussing marriage views like six months into the relationship. Feeling each other out and sharing perspectives and such when it becomes clear the relationship is serious and has some staying power.
You should have been talking about it already. It's a big decision and should be mutual, not "I wait quietly for him to decide it's the right time"
You're both adults. Have an adult discussion.
How do you bring it up? Have a nice dinner at home. Pick something up that costs a good bit that you both like. Casually drop "So I've been thinking about marriage and I was wondering if you have too" into the conversation.
I don't know where you picked up that stereotype. It's wrong. Discussion is not bugging, and you have every right to lay down some expectations and see how he reacts to them. Obviously marriage is a requirement for you. Does he know that yet?
If not, that's kinda a problem and you two need to talk more.
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Thanks. I'm not sure why everyone thinks its such a huge problem. Maybe I should have clarified, we have talked about this, and its something we both want. I just have a hard time bringing it up casually. Maybe in modern relationships 6 months is normal, but we are happy enough to where it didn't need to come up. So, I'm not asking for your opinion on the problems in our relationship, we have some but this isn't one of them. I wss just asking about how to bring it up.
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