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(Im a 22 year old girl.)This one feels complicated. I met my now best guy friend, who is a 21 year old guy, at work at the beginning of the year and we bonded through his breakup with his long time girlfriend. We're a lot alike in a lot of ways and talk easily about pretty much everything, including our dating lives, family/personal/work problems and secret future dreams. Over the past like three months our friendship has gotten deeper and deeper, I guess you could say. Out of the blue one night he told me I was his best friend and he felt closer to me than to his best guy friend that he grew up with. Then he told me he loved me as a best friend. Then he started relying on my fashion and relationship advice to get back into dating. He kissed me on the forehead once to tell me goodnight and I was completely thrown back. Then he started flirting with me jokingly, when at the beginning of our friendship this was just not done even as a joke. Now he's calling me babe and flirting with me hot and heavy-mostly when we're around other people-while telling me he loves me (without saying as a friend like used to always specify) A LOT-around other people and not. All of our coworkers and friends say they see something there and after his comment tonight "what if we're like those friends that in 15 years realize they can't live without each other and get married?" I'm starting to wonder what to make of all this. Any insight? (link)
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You're both blind (but you're worse) and he's in love with you.
If you like him that way, tell him, kiss him, go from there. If you don't, the friendship is over, because he's in love with you and keeping on being his friend is going to send him signals which give him hope to keep after you until one of you goes nuts.
How can you wonder what to make of this? It sounds exactly like two people in denial. Wake up and do something about it before one of you spontaneously combusts.
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Rating: 5
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I think you were dead on. Thank you for the blunt honesty.
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