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I know both my parents want the best of me but they're always so insulting and they're always comparing me to other children. I'm 20 years old and a college senior and for all I can remember, I've never heard my parents tell me they're proud of me. All my dad tells me is that I'm a disappointment. If not to my face, my parents still talk. My dad tell me I have a lazy mind with no motivation. Yet my dad says that I don't talk to him nor tell him what problems I'm facing. If they get mad at me over a specific situation, they never let it go. Every time I get another insulting lecture from my dad, the same situation is brought up. I got the courage once to tell him that he's so negative all the time to me but he turned it around to use it against me saying that because of my attitudes I am where I am today. I don't feel disappointed in myself personally but to them, I will always feel like one. Especially since I'm told straight up that I am a disappointment. I don't know what to do. How can I have a friendly father-daughter relationship if this is what he says about me? My family loves to talk about other people's families and their faults during their normal family conversations but yet they can't focus on their own. I'm not saying I'm completely right but I really don't feel the change has to start with me. I always function better in a positive environment with support from my loved ones and I can't even get that. I feel like I'm expected to be a perfect child just the way they see other people's children. Surely no family is perfect but I'm sure other parents don't tell their children half of what I'm told. Not only am I a disappointment, I have a bad attitude, bad facial expressions, and I'm spoon-fed too much. Once when my face was breaking out due to school and exam stress and just having acne issues, I was severely insulted by my mom saying that I must like to look that way since I obviously don't care about my face that that my mom would have been afraid to show her face in public if hers looked like mine with the acne. My biggest fear is that I would screw up badly and have them shut me out completely but it seems like everything I do will always cause an issue. I feel so much more comfortable in public when my dads not with me, like if my family decides to go to church and whatnot because he always scrutinizes everything. I sing regularly and he always has negative remarks. If I happen to sing decently to his standards, he won't say anything. Either that or he's just given up on the remarks of that day. I don't want to lose respect for my parents, especially my father. But I haven't ever felt close to him. He always thinks he understands everything and knows better than everyone else and it's just overwhelming to deal with. I don't know how much longer I can handle this. Please help me someone. Im literally crying my eyes out while writing this. Thank you. (link)
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Dear you are not alone to face that kind of problem ,every parents want to do best from his children ,i want to told you my story ,i done master in economics but could not found job till 1 year so my mother daily insulting me and compare me my uncles children and said me i am not able to do any work and said my cousin is well settled ,am not, to hearing this really i was very depressed but my father never compare me with any one he said no problem if i could not found any job .i suggest you do your natural work which you want if you want to go according your parents ,never success in your life,and do not care your father and mom .do which you like if you parrot and do as which is not according your habit you always make mistake as you done when your father that time with you you know if we done work any work with pressure we make always mistake so at the time of that situation do not mind ,your father with you and think nobody is not seeing me ,am alone here try to win their conffidence and tell him your problem when they understand you they treat you well, here no problem with you nothing wrongs with .your main problem is communication gap with you and your parents .try to make happiness and do yoga .best of luck dear.i hope you think better now
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Thank you. It's a lot easier to say you'll talk to them and learn better skills but at this point it's a bit too late for that. They're set in they're ways and I am set in mines. There is definitely a communication gap but I hope they realize their mistakes one day.
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