Hey there. I hail from a middle class family in Bihar, India. (A developing state.)
Male, just turned 18
first of all I would like to make you aware of the background of the problem. Here in India, every february-june there is a lot of activity going on concerning education. Admissions in engineering colleges is the major influencer. I have opted for the entrance exams of several institutions - some of them are over and some are due. They'd end by june beginning. For the last 4-5 months, my parents have tortured me. I had been studying continuously for hours and then if i try to relax for a little while by watching tv or using my mobile or by watering the garden, they make hell out of it. Their scoldings are like : " why are you cheating us ? Why aren't you studying ? Why are you laughing ? Don't you have to study ? Why are you listening to songs, you cheater ? You would not get good marks. You would not get good rank. They have discouraged me by saying, " I guess you have made up your mind to try for these colleges next year. " Gosh ! I have just taken a break. Why don't you understand ? For the last 2 years, i was tortured by my girlfriend whom i eventually left ! Those 2 years were spoiled because of her. I was not allowed to do anything other than talking to her. It was like prison. Not allowed to watch tv, not allowed to sleep at night, no listening songs, no spending time with family, no facebooking. Nothing of my wish. After leaving her, my family has started the drama. I left her some 3 months ago. My family is torturing me. Most of the time, i have tried to ignore them. Tried to smile. But it's too much. Every now and then, they are killing me. They never supported me. What should I do?
Hi there, I understand your dilemma. I'm well aware of how Indian parents can be because I am of Indian descent and I've heard lots of stories of how some parents can be. I know it's hard to think about ignoring them but at the end of the day, its your head, your grades, your well being. You should tell your parents how you feel. Ask them if they were your situation, how would they feel constantly studying all the time? Communication is key with your situation and I am sure you are smart enough to voice your opinion.
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Yes. You're right. At the end of the day, it's all about me. Thanks.
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