I'm a 17 year old girl, and I'm a very sensitive person. I'm quite self-conscious and constantly worry about being judged. I have been this way my entire life.
For as long as I can remember, my parents have been making snide and sarcastic comments to me about what I wear, what I eat, my acne, the fact that I've never kept up a sport or instrument, etc. It's not that they sit there and laugh at me for having a pimple, it's more like, "Sure, eat more of that greasy pizza, that'll help your skin." I guess I'm supposed to laugh it off, but I get offended and try to make some clever comment back, which is usually more rude than clever, and gets me in trouble.
I can tell that they're coming from a good place (trying to get me to change my behavior or improve myself), but they're doing more harm than good. I have told them repeatedly that I don't like it when they mock my intelligence, but they just get angry with me and tell me that I can't take a joke. Yup. I can't; I just have a private cry and a cigarette or two.
What can I say to make them realize that I am NOT okay with such comments? Thanks :)
Hi there. I understand what you are going through because with my parents it's the same deal. I haven't figured out a way to solve the issue either but I try to ignore them as best as I can and remember that my parents want the best in me. Our parents aren't psychologists and they don't understand how things register in young minds. My parents make fun of my face if I happen to break out as well, not realizing that there are certain times when breakouts are more likely to happen. Getting back at them by being fiesty, I'm sure you've noticed, won't help you either and I can tell that you're a type of person who doesn't let people walk over you, no matter who they are and that's an admirable trait. If the matter is that serious, then you need to tell your parents that you think they're acting really negative towards you when it comes to "making fun" and that you don't take it the way they mean it and you would prefer it if they stopped. That's another alternative. Remember, no one is psychic and most people can't read emotions, so the best way to let someone know how you feel about something is by downright telling them. And at least it's your parents, who you know will always look out for you and I'm sure will adjust to make you happy. :)
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thanks, i think this answer pertained best to my situation
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