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Hi, I'm Sabrina and I'll try my best to give the community here the utmost advice :) If there are certain mistakes involving the way I convey the words, do pardon me. "If something is normal doesn't mean we have to accept it."
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Well, I feel like I have no real friends. I do have this one friend ''fernanda'', we go out and have fun and laugh and stuff, but that's about it. I have tons of friends on facebook, but I don't know most of them in person, all I see are pictures of them having a good time together and just...happy. Something I haven't been for a very long time, see, I'm very insecure...sometimes I feel like I'm just not worth it, and well my story is much longer than what most of you would be willing to read, so let me just cut to the chase and ask you guys...what should I do? I'm not even sure what I'm asking here, it's christmas and I'm looking at all these pictures on facebook of people having fun with their friends, and I'm here at home, nobody called me, nobody cares about me...sometimes I feel jealous of these people, I wish I could be with them and have what they have...happiness, fun, friends... I think I'm a pathetic loser...sometimes I think I don't deserve love, or friends, or any of that for some reason, or maybe my personality just sucks. I'm interested in things like philosophy, history, languages and all that...I just can never find someone to talk with me about that, but at this point I don't care...I just wish I had friends. What should I do? I feel very sad and often cry a lot cuz I think my teenage is passing by and I'm not enjoying it...life is passing by and I can't move on because I feel like a part of it is missing, like something I never had...and maybe never will.
What i'm going to convey may or may not help you but i'll try my best . Firstly , you need to deal with the feeling of insecurity and your true personality . When you're stating something regarding who you are , make sure that there're evidences supporting what you've stated . You might feel worthiless , but is it 100 % true ? Deal with your battles within , and make sure you're controlling your emotions because perceptions conquer thoughts , and thoughts reign the actions . You're 19 , and you still have a lot of chances to have friends arounds you , supporting your life and they may appear from any walks of life but sometimes , to have one or more friends around you , it needs you to be the great friend first . For instance , you could use Facebook and give words of kindness when people need it , and it doesn't matter who they are as long as you've respect . If you do it often , maybe some of your Facebook friends will chat with you , and then you can use the chance you possess to be closer to them , and understand their stories and make friends . Still , don't compare yourself to people . In this world , all men are made equal , and no matter how happy people may seem , they still have their own stories to tell , and maybe very , very painful ones . You too , deserve to be happy just the way you are ! You're feeling lonely not because of the fact that you're friendless , but it's because you're lacking the presence of someone to share almost anything with including your interests , tears , laughter and so on . Don't worry , you'll meet that someone believe me but you need patience as it takes time . Think of the brightside . Your passion towards philosophy , languages and so on is what makes you special , different from others ! Be independent for now , and try being with your family more or be closer with your religion or , consume your time doing the things you love . Gain strength and be motivated . You are the cure to your depression , believe me and , live your life to the fullest . Make a bucketlist and complete yourself . Please , stop crying now :) look around you . Stop crying , listen to inspirational songs and be friendly towards everyone . Just as an additional info , you could email me just about anything . I'd be happy to help you out . Smile now :))
(Rating: 5) Thanks, your advice was really great!