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My fiancée and I have been together for five years. We are both 28. We have a beautiful one year old daughter together. Before we were pregnant, he spent his days off fishing and shooting guns with his friends and it wasn't that big of a deal. After we had our daughter he spends his two days off and sometimes takes a day off to go fishing. I'm a stay at home mom and I take care of our daughter 24/7. He may feed her and give her a bath. Lately we've been getting into arguments about the amount of time he fishes. He admitted to me that he will never stop fishing and that if I don't "get over it" that this relationship will never work. I don't care that he fishes. I care that he's never here and he doesn't care. He doesn't think it's a big deal. Is this something I just have to deal with or is there any hope in him changing? (link)
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I think the bigger thing is here is when you have a child your whole dynamic changes. He is trying to live the life he did before you had the baby. It's not about giving up fishing but about how he incorporates it into a life with you and you two's daughter. With change it's not always simple but also there is an element to change that is necessary and makes life better for people. I think here is finding the right balance because you miss him and want more of his company as well which is extremly important. I think too that is spending time with him to help the relationship grow more. Maybe there is a way that you could go fishing with him to spend time on what he likes so then he can stay with you more and fish less knowing that you two are comprising to build a better and stronger life for your family.
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