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I recently got out of a long distance relationship with my first love. Our relationship was more open because we felt it would put a strain on things since we live like 9 hours away. So basically she got a gf. I was suspicious but ignored it until I couldn't take it anymore and asked her about it.
Long story short, I'm heart broken. I spent a few days bawling my eyes out, and then am going through a stage of "Idc & as long as she's happy." But to be honest, I'm jealous, I'm hurt.
How do I get over her? How longis it going to take for it not to hurt anymore?
Firstly , take a deep , deep breath and calm down for a moment . You see , although she's your very first love , everything in this world happens for a reason . It's okay to be jealous and it's okay to be hurt and it's also okay for you to cry a lot for now because these feelings are inevitable but remember , only for now . Don't break down forever because she's not worth your tears and so on . your time is precious , so precious that you cannot waste it on anyone who doesn't realise that you are too . Take this fate as an experience to make you a stronger person and you will heal . Believe me . To be honest , it takes a certain amount of time to get over your loved one and move on . The thing is , you need to let her go for your own good and hope or pray that things'll get better because they will . For now , try your best to motivate yourself . I am sure that you were once a jubilant or a happy person , but somehow you changed yourself towards sadness because of this girl . Please , don't let yourself go . You deserve to be happy and stand up . Again , motivate yourself and assure that behind every ordeal , there's an endowment and behind every hardship , there's relief and behind every trial , there is happiness but it all depends on you . How would you manage yourself in a situation like this from now on ? One thing about this life is that you can have new chances i.e better relationship or more and that's why you must let her go . Remember , you deserve to be happy too and in fact , much more happier than she is if you know the right method . Consume your time with your friends , family or the neighbours and do the things you absolutely love and love every moment of your life . Live it to the fullest . Time will heal , it will . Seize the bitter seconds of your life and rise beyond the pain . You can also express everything in a secret journal but you need to be honest with yourself . Face the heartbreak now , but prepare yourself to embrace the happiness in the future . Hope for the best and don't let yourself down anymore okay ? Be smart and wise in managing your heart . Stand up now . You can go through this eventually trust me :)
(Rating: 5) Thank you so very much. This really boosted my spirits and I'm going to try my best to be happy and move on. I've already begun to focus on things that make me happy, and me and her talk as friends from time to time. I think dealing with this heartbreak will be easier than I thought. Again, thank you. xx