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I am 23 years old, but still living at home. I have been dating a guy for a few months that I absolutely adore. Only downfall is he has tattoos, not just a few but both arms completely covered (sleeves). I have no problem with this however my parents do. I haven't had him over to meet my parents simply because of that reason and they have already told me "he is not going to meet extended family, that's embarrassing to bring around them, he can't go on family vacations" etc... I am not asking them to accept or like the tattoos, that is their opinion. I'm just looking for some advice on how I can allow them to look beyond that and see them how i do, a respectful man who treats me right. Any advice please! (link)
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Guys get tattoos as a macho thing to attempt to buy into a bad boy mojo that they often don't possess. Moreover, tattoos often have a criminal association. For example, in Japan and Korea, up until the last few years, the only people who wore tats were organized crime figures. Even today, you cannot stay in many hotels in Japan if you have tattoos.
Tattoos also strike people as really ugly (I'm one of those; I won't date any woman who has them) and they just don't want that ugliness around them. If your parents don't want someone with tats in THEIR space (such as the home they are paying for), that is their right. Everything we do in life has consequences, both positive and negative and large and small, so your only resort is to accept how your parents feel and conduct your relationship with the guy away from your family. You made this choice and you have to deal with the consequence. That is part of being a mature adult. So relax, respect how your parents feel and enjoy what you have with your boyfriend in a venue other than your parents home.
This may also be an encouragement for you to find a way to move out and become an independent adult.
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You're right it's their space, definitely need my own. I appreciate the input!
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