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Last Update: January 1, 2013
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Long story short, my son and daughter in law left the country some time ago and left their children with me. I became their legal guardian shortly afterwards knowing that it would be a permanent arrangement as their parents don't plan to be back until after their on their own. My grandson is hard to upset and acts fine with everything, but my granddaughter has all of these mother- daughter things to go to and since I'm the one who'll always go with her to those, as well as the person who takes care of her and is legally responsible for her, she wants to know if she is my kid now. I've explained to her that her mom and dad will always be just that and she will always be their daughter, but she wants to know if she is my kid too. Is she? Legally she is, and I have always considered most of my grandchildren to be mine, as I've done a lot to help raise them and take care of them, but am I thinking that she's mine in the same way she is? What do I tell her? (link)
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You have to think -
Just because you are not their actual mum doesn't make you any less of a "real" mum - because you have brought these kids up... you are LEGAL responsible for them. if your son and daughter in law don't have regular contact - what makes them their "real" parents..
On the other hand you have to tell them that their mum and dad are not around but you are like their second mummy ?
Its hard - depending on their age don't be brutal... be suttle and just be honest...
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