Hello. My name is Harley. I have a well-recorded history of not being complete shit at advice, and am particularly good with mental health, most kinds of relationships, and LGBTQ+ issues.
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Hey, female, 18. Just moved into University about 4 days ago. There is a guy from my high school going here, in high school I thought he was so cute and we talked and all but I didn't think there was anything there especially because I was a nerd in the marching band and he was a star on the football team. Well, freshmen year, he was put in the same class as a close friend of mine and they had a nice little chat. She said he was happy that they chatted because she thought he was the biggest douschebag. So, we were texting and I told him that and that she's happy they chatted and he isn't a douschebag. He texted me back and said 'what the hell, i'm not a douschebag!' So, I just told him that he comes off as a little bit of one and he just replied back with "oh..." so I told him I didn't mean to offend him. We argued for a good 15 minutes eventually me getting to "well, most jocks are douschebags so it's okay, haha" just joking around and he said "I'm not the typical jock, (my name)" Like, he was trying so hard to prove to me (when I wasn't even the initial subject to our conversation even starting) that he wasn't a douschebag. He stopped texting me back after I told him that I never said he was mean, I just said he comes off as a little douscher. Now I don't know if he's mad, if I bruised his ego haha or if he does have feelings for me because he tried proving to me that he was a nice kid. I just don't know what to think about anything or even to what to say to him now. Help? (link)
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Um, ok.
You know, you're kind of a jerk. Your friend told you something and you immediately told the person it was most likely to hurt. Then when he was offended by it, you boxed him into a category that probably doesn't completely fit him AND that he may resent(which you may have known had you taken the time to get to know him) and now you're upset because he stopped texting you when you did that? You need to grow the heck up, apologize TO HIS FACE, apologize to your friend for repeating what she says regardless of content, and then you can worry about him liking you. Honestly, though, he probably just wanted to be friends and then started acting like you were still in high school. I've said it once and I'll say it again. GROW UP.
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I probably should have put in the question that he is my friend, that we are honest with each other regardless of what is being said. He called me a bitch once, to my face and I got over it. He is a pompous person but I love him and he knows I appreciate our friendship. I did apologize to him as well.
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