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Hello! My name is...well, you can call me Rosie. As you can probably see, my picture is of a creepy-stalker-but-sort-of-adorable horse. No, i'm not really a horse. I wish, but no. I'm human. Like you guys. And with this column, I hope to get across to everyone the fact that WE ARE ALL HUMAN! Everybody makes mistakes, and everybody has those days, as a really annoying country singer once shrieked into my ten-year-old ears. So let's all just relax a little and realize that ten years from now, we'll look back and laugh. I hope. But let's just try to keep a positive attitude, shall we?
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Location: New York
Occupation: Student; Expert Cat Sitter; Abraham Lincoln's designated Ninja Mail Carrier
Age: 16
Member Since: August 2, 2012
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Last Update: May 3, 2014
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Okay well first off, we aren't dating yet. We dated for a while and broke up. We worked out our differences and are almost 100% sure we are getting back together, just not yet because we wanna be friends for a little while. But we still kiss. We both have never done more than that. He wants to have sex but I don't feel like I am ready for that because of a few reasons. First off we are both 15, I am almost 16. Second, I don't want to risk getting pregnant, I have my whole life left to live! Third, we aren't dating yet, I don't want to have sex with someone unless I love them and they feel the same. I REALLY like him but idk if I love him yet. I feel like sometimes I do but I am 15 I don't know what love feels like. I feel like if I did end up having a kid, I would be able to take care of it but I don't want one now. Most of my and his friends have had sex and he feels like we are both missing out on it. But anyways my question is, what should I do? I don't think I am ready and I told him that but I feel bad because he really wants to. But that's also my choice to make, not his. Help!
Hello! You ask whether or not you should have sex with your almost-boyfriend, but it seems to me that you already know the answer. You know that physically and emotionally you just are not ready to make that kind of commitment, and your boyfriend should respect that. This sounds like the "everybody's doing it" thing, and I know it seems like it, but NOT EVERYONE is doing it! And when you see those girls who are suppossedly "doing it" with babies at 16 years old, then you'll know you made the right decision. Good for you for knowing that you really can't understand the complexities of true love at 16 years old! :) You seem to understand more about yourself and what you're comfortable with than a lot of other girls. Believe me, you may feel like you're missing out on sex, but when you wait and have sex with the person you know deep down inside you really love, it's simply magical. So my advice to you: Don't feel badly for saying "No" to your boyfriend. If he really likes you and respects you, he will wait for you! I personally think that you already know this,:), you just didn't want to make your boyfriend mad at you. (which is completely understandable!) :D You're right, it IS your choice! Don't let him or anyone else walk all over you. You're too awesome for that!
Good Luck!
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Thanks! (: I appreciate you taking the time to answer this. It makes me feel better and know I am making the right decision for myself.
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