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I recently started dating a guy. I have known him since I was little but we starting becoming friend about a year ago. We texted everyday talked every night he called me beautiful and things like that. I found out he liked me asked him about it and we ended up dating but now I feel different. I feel like he'd more of a friend then a boyfriend. I've never been physically attracted to him but he had a great personality. I feel like if were going to kiss I won't want to do it. Can you have a relationship without physical attraction? Also Im not very good at complimenting people. I can be mean but I just joke around. I feel like as his girlfriend I should be all "aw you're so sweet. I love you" blah blah but I cant. With all my past boyfriends I've never been like that. Im not clingy and I dont express my feelings. How can I be nicer to him. How do I make him feel like he means something to me. I think I have this wall up because Im scared to get hurt. Or is it because deep down he's just a friend to me and I dont want to tell him these things. I love talking to him and he makes me laugh and smile,but friends do that too. I can't break up with him because what if I do like him and Im just too stupid to know it. (link)
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I understand you perfectly! I felt that exact same way about a friend. We would flirt, and joke around and it was just so much fun. One day, one of our mutual friends suggested we dated, I didn't really want to but he asked me and I figured, we acted like we were dating so why not? So I did. A week passed, and I was just so ashamed of my way of thinking. I didn't flirt anymore, thinking it might lead to more serious things. Maybe I flirted when we were friends because there was sort of a safety net, you know? I was sure nothing would happen because we were just friends. Well, I felt like I was a lot more comfortable being his friend then his girlfriend so I told him. Luckily he felt the same way and we've been good buddies ever since. Being clingy, or too emotional may just not be your thing.If he's with you, it's probably because he likes that. Don't ever change for anyone, you're perfect. Just have a straight talk with him, ask for some time alone? Maybe in that time you'll realize you're true feelings. Best of luck [:
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