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i have serious problem at home.my mother is constantly criticizing me. the moment the day starts she goes on from whatever errand i do..its never appreciated. everything has a flaw, u cud not clean it properly, u forgot to do this , to the point i borrowed her scarf, she got so possessive, wear like this it will spoil it. does not matter how i look. and if i want to do my way, i get abused, she starts blaming herself, banging everything, blaming her life, telling me what all she has done for us, and i can never measure up to her. i have to live like a robot in my house, i dont get any privelages like other kids i don't complain i never complained, if i asked for something and i dint get it, i never asked again, but this is too much..i cant take this critizing. i cant always be wrong. i feel so unappreciated...

Have you tried to communicate your feelings to her? I know its difficult if shes always blaming herself at the end of the day because I know you don't want her to do that. But having a heart-to-heart (as hard as it can be) can really make a difference.

"Mom, I'm sorry I didn't do ______ right. But I'm trying to make you happy, and when you say things like that it really hurts me..."

I know its not easy.
She's your mom, and Im sure she only wants the best for you. Stand your ground in a respectful way.

Or the alternative is to move out, but I know thats probably not realistic, and that'll only make it worse from the sounds of it.

Im sorry you're having a hard time, but like I said, try and communicate with her in a respectful/nonagressive way, as hard as it may be.

xo

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(Rating: 5) thanks..i will try
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