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Q: I am dating a guy for a month, and known him for two months. I am finally starting to have feelings for him, but I think he lied to me.

I found that he had a Facebook page (social page online) and he promised me he wouldn't add anymore girls on there. I just noticed he added one, and when I confronted him he said the following.......I saw a girl requested me on my cellphone (that's where he got the request) but I swear on my life & kids (he has kids) that he didn't approve her. I don't know what to think? He kept telling me he really does care for me and doesn't want to loose me. Should I let it go, or should I dump him?

I'm very confused, please help : /

I'm suppose to see him tonight, and don't know if to end this or not.

By the way, he knows I have a facebook too and yet hasn't requested me as a friend nor asked me about mine....Kinda weird too :(

this in all honesty funny to me, sweetheart the real question isn't whether or not you should forgive him... it's why are you so insecure?
there is no reason you should be getting angry over him adding girls on facebook. and i don't even want to know how you would be if he was friends with a girl in real life.
and i can tell you right now the way you are acting, you WILL lose this guy. and most likely it will be cheating because you are trying so hard to control him probably because you feel like he might cheat, that he most likely will.
And then you won't have to worry about him adding you on facebook because since he knows your profile, he'll probably block you.
give the guy some space. add him. and let him do what he wants. he is with you that should be good enough.

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Very judgmental. This is a question of a simple answer and it appears you are more judgmental than supportive. I feel this site is to encourage others not push them down judging their behavior. But thanks for trying.

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