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hi, im a 17 year old female. Im a Christian, God and i are really tight. im known amongst my friends as being the pure, innocent Christian one who would never hurt a fly. i have never drunk or done drugs, havent dated, and i neverrr swear. But, ocassionally i can get in the mood to satisfy some certain... wants.
you see, every now and then, ill read these manga with really lewd sex scenes in them on a website. some ofthem can get pretty graphic. now dont get me wrong, ihave never and WILL never masturbate. but every now and again, ill just randomly want to look them up. now, i have never watched sex animes or looked up real life porn. ive looked up manga, and read some certain dirty fanfictions, but never anything worse. ill only read them for about 15 minutes or so before i get this huuuuugely awful feeling in my stomach, and stop. then i proceed to immerse myself in as much innocent things as i can in orderto get those awful images out of my head.
im not trying to make excuses for myself or justify my actions, but im saying they're not as extreme other people's can be, and I am certainly nooot addicted to it. but... yeah.
can any Christian, or well, you don'thave to be Christian, people relate to what im doing or feeling? i just want to make sure im not insane. Thanks. :) (link)
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Everyone can relate to what you're feeling and doing. Sexual desire is a natural state of being for everyone past the age of puberty who isn't asexual.
The thing about Christianity is that you've been taught from a young age that these things are sinful and dirty and wrong, and so that's creating a conflict with your natural desires which leads you to treat this like it's something wrong with you as a person.
The truth is that what christianity tells you should be right runs directly counter to what everyone's natural inclination is. It does this because it allows religion to make you feel like there is something wrong with you that you need religion to address.
Plenty of Christians look at porn. Some people feel it's wrong, some don't. Plenty of Christians masturbate. Some feel it's wrong, some don't. Plenty of christians have sex outside of marriage. Some think it's wrong, some don't.
You can try to minimize and excuse your actions or you can accept that you were created with certain urges and decide what you're willing to do to satisfy them. Either way, you need to try to make some peace with yourself over it. Whatever you believe about how people should act, you aren't perfect and you never will be. Better to accept it and do what you need to do than drive youself insane over it and feel guilty because you don't measure up to a standard that literally no one on this earth measures up to.
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Thank you veeeeeeery much for your honesty. Much appreciated, good sir. :D~~
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