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Whenever my boyfriend is stressed out, I make sure I am there for him 100% and I always talk to him to calm him down and offer to help. This usually happens when he's stressed over work or homework. Basically I'm really verbally involved and supportive. Whenever I get stressed, over homework or just for whatever reason at the time, he often just doesn't support me the same as I do, and that frustrates me so much because I'm looking for the same from him that I give him. Am I over reacting? A lot of times he gets silent and says, what would you like me to do? I dont know if I am wrong or not. 20/f (link)
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Sit him down and explain it to him. You offer him love in the way you want it given. But not everyone works the same way, where some people want words of affirmation like you give him, others need physical touch for comfort, or even acts of service. People show love and understand love in different ways.
He asks what you want him to do, explain it. In detail if necessary. It's understanding that it's frustrating, but you need to put yourself in his shoes for a second. He's probably at a loss for how to give you what you need because he works differently and the things that to you seem natural are not his default method of expressing himself.
Teach him what you need. Work on it. Expect it to be a process.
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thank you for the advice, I feel a lot better now
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