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Q: 19/f, my boyfriend is 18/m. We've been together for a year and three months. We've been living together for 6 months.

Tonight he asked me to marry him, and of course I said yes. I know in my heart it feels right, and what not.

We also planned to not get married in exactly a year. We wanna wait a little bit for a wedding to make sure we have enough money to afford a wedding along with our basic needs of life, because things aren't cheap.

I was wondering if this is normal to not get married after a year of engagment?

And I want your opinions as if we got engaged too soon??

I talked to my mom, and she wasn't upset. She said she saw nothing wrong with it as long as I'm not rushing into legal marriage when I'm not finiacially ready, and I assured her I wasn't.

Opinions, please?

I just wanted to add that marriage is very hard. I said you share money, you support and take care of each other. You learn to ask each other to make large purchases, or tell each other where you are going. It takes a lot of work doing so. It seems like little things but its really not. So living together while engaged can make it easier. Just remember marriage takes lots of work and commitment so dont give up even when things get tough. I have been married going on 3 years and we still argue about little things but its getting much better and easier.

Rating: 5

Thank you so much! I was just worried that it was expected to get married within a year of being engaged. I just don't wanna rush it. I wanna continue to save money, and to even make sure we are okay with living each other a little while longer.

To me, being engaged doesn't really mean anything serious. It's just showing that you are ready to make that commitment whenever your ready. I have talked to my dad, and he said that getting engaged will ruin my life, even though i told him that we aren't getting married anytime soon.

but thank you.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.