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18/f. My boyfriend recently ended our relationship. He was drunk and admitted to me he cheated on me during a different drunk night. He said a lot of really hurtful things to me that night, so I wrote him a letter a few days later saying everything that was on my mind. It was in no way malicious; I basically told him what he did was terrible, but I hope he had a great life.

He never said anything about the letter, so a few days ago I asked him if we could have a talk sometime when he's free. I've sorta changed my mind since then, but in a stunning act of maturity, he texted me today to see if I still wanted to talk. My mom has advised me against doing so, as I've taken the break up extremely hard, and she feels like I shouldn't waste anymore time. What do you think? Should I ask him why he never answered my letter (written about 3 weeks ago) or just forget about the whole thing?

You are very young & have so much time to hurt over him, possibly find other friends or distractions & definitely you need to know that for a fact that you deserve better. You will hurt, yes. Time will help & even heal you. Seems that he is 3 strikes & he's out, to me! You have so much time to figure out how to replace that time you spent with him. Having 2nd thoughts is normal when you feel for someone but you must not give him the option ~ not now. Live your life now. Think of anything that will make your life better in the near future without him. Many things are awaiting you around corners that you can't see just yet but will come. If you stop this relationship, you will look back & find that you feel much better that you left it. Maybe even wonder why you held on as long as you did. The hurt at the beginning is so much easier to go through that keeping all the torment of having someone you care for cheating on you. What's next? Ask yourself now... What is best for you...
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(Rating: 3) I don't intend on getting back together with him. I wanted to know if I should have a conversation with him about our relationship to move forward as people who can peacefully coexist.
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