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Okay I'll try to make this short.
My friend and I have been friends for about 2 years now. In late September of 2011 her husband, her and I engaged in a threesome, then another one a week later. I visit their house about 2-3 times a week. Ever since the threesome her husband has been really flirty with me (but never in front of her.)
He makes out with me in their house when my friend is in the other room, when she goes to the bathroom he takes his penis out and puts my hand on it. I've given him oral sex about 7 times since September, but never anything more.
Another thing he does is we chat on facebook and have pretty inappropriate conversations about sex and 'things we would like to do to each other.'
I want this to stop, after all, he is my Best Friends husband. I get that this isn't his fault, I am also involved. I'm just nervous to tell him that I want to stop, and I don't know how, so I guess that's what I'm looking for advice on. Also, I don't know whether or not I should tell her.
Has anybody ever been in a similar situation where they engaged in sexual activity with their friends partner? I get that what I have done is a VERY bad thing, now I'm just looking for advice on how to rectify the situation.
So... Do I tell her? and How do I tell him that I want to stop without messing up the friendship that he and I have?
Thank you.
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You messed up the friendship the day you agreed to a threesome. Now pandora's box has been opened. The only way to end this mess is to back off for a little while. Take yourself out of the picture. Stop Facebooking with the husband and stop going to their house. If your friends asks why you've suddenly pulled away be honest and tell her you feel uncomfortable about things between the three of you since your threesome. I feel pretty sure she has an idea something more is going on with you and her husband. She may not care. If she does care, she'll let you go for a while in order to give everyone space and time to let this ill-advised threesome to fade into just a memory.
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Thank you, I think that you're right though. I am beginning to get the feeling that she knows something. Just today I went over to their house and she asked me what I chat with him on facebook about because he always clears his chat history in our conversations. I'm really nervous and dont know what I'm going to do yet, but either way, I appreciate your advice.
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