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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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18/f I just had a baby 4 weeks ago I breastfeed & it's so stressful & tiring at times. I don't ever feel like doing anything. I don't want to shower, brush my teeth, talk on the phone, go downstairs to get food or anything. I feel sooo lazy. I don't know what the problem is. I see & feel myself being lazy but I don't change it. Or I say I am & I don't do anything about it. I feel like so lost I feel like life has stopped for me now. I feel so weird & different. Idk how to deal with being a teen mom now it is hitting me I will never be normal. Idk what's my problem .

You are completely normal. Pregnancy, labor and caring for a newborn is the single most difficult thing anyone can do. Your hormones for one are trying to get back to normal and since you are breastfeeding it's going to be awhile. You get no sleep and no breaks, no days off just go go go. Your whole world is about another little soul and everyone talks about the baby and not you. It will get better I promise but it will be awhile. I have a 1,2, and 4 year old boys that DRIVE ME CRAZY. My 1 year old is almost two and I am finally able to sleep through the night. I am getting where I want to dress up and look nice again finaly but I'm still not the same persona as before. It is hard don't let anyone tell you differently. Until someone is in your shoes they won't understand. Take it easy on yourself. Sleep every second you get. Take long hot baths but try and workout as soon as you are all healed up. That helped me a lot! You are not lazy you are exhausted! Hang in there I promise things will get easier :)

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(Rating: 5) Thank you very much. I really needed that. I feel like the only person ever going through this, but Its not only me
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