Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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Ok so here's the scoop. My husband and I both are in our 20s. He just got back from a year long deployment in October. Lately i've felt like he doesnt want anything to do with me. He's constantly playing his video games. Like literally all the time! He gets mad when i ask him if he will do simply tasks such as the dishes or just picking up the house a little bit. He's currently on unemployment due to just coming back from deployment. I currently work full time and pregnant. He gets irritated when i ask for a little help and says i need to stop nagging him. I feel like nothing will get done if i dont and the reason i've seen that is because thats how it goes. If i dont push him to do something he wont do it. When i get home from work, i'm tired, exhausted and just wanna relax. But the moment i walk in the door he tells me like oh the dogs need to be fed, etc. I'm just like you cant do simple tasks while i'm at work? He literally sits on the couch playing on his xbox or computer. I just cant handle it. He doesnt spend any time with me. I usually go to bed around midnight due to work, and he doesnt come to bed until like 6am or sometimes 8am. I have to like beg him to come to bed and he'll leave sometimes when i fall asleep just to make me happy but of course i wake up in the middle of the night due to being pregnant and having to pee a lot sorry TMI and find him once again on his games. I'm worried that once the baby comes he's going to continue in his ways, granted the baby isnt due until July but still. Any advice or suggestions on what i should do? I do rate and thanks for reading i just had to get this outta my system! (link)
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I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He would play the game ALL day if I'd let him; than I hear him screaming and cursing at the TV when he dies or something. It irriates me. We live together and when I need help with some house work, he gets all pissy and doesn't do it. Its irritating. It takes TWO people in a relationship and not just one, ya know?
God Bless you for doing everything your doing AND being pregnant! I could not imagine doing what your doing and having someone there who isn't helping at all!
If what the user below me said is true, than you need to really get him help. I just don't see what that problem has to do with games?
If I was you, while he's sleeping or something, I'd take the game away. I'd hide the X-Box, all his games, the remote, and even put a password on the computer. Yes this may make him mad, but tell him you need to talk to him, and this was the only way you could think of to actually sit down and speak to him without being interupted.
Let him know how you feel. Don't bash him, or be rude. Just be calm, cool, and collected. Let him know that being pregnant, working full time, plus house work is really hard. Pregnancy limits you to some things, and it also makes you run out of energy alot quicker than not being pregnant.
The only thing you can do, is talk to him. Sometimes talking doesn't really work; but you need to just let him know that it takes two people in a relationship, and the household responsibilities aren't just yours, their his too. Since you work 8+ hours a day, it would be nice to come home to a clean house so you can just relax and be with him. Enjoy each others company.
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