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so i'm a sophomore in high school. and i like a junior. i'ved liked this guy for 4 years. and he's known ever since i was in 7th grade and he was in 8th grade. him and all his friends stare at me all the time. but the only thing is, he's the hottest guy in the school and mad popular. i think i'm in love with him. is it possible to love someone you've never talked to before? i just don't know. do you think he might secretly like me? because when its just me and him in the hall i feel the tension and he constantly stares at me. and in school whenever i go to the bathroom he's always in the hall also. is it fate that brings us together? help please.
I know what it's like to like someone for such a long time, believe me. It's hard. But here's the thing. You really don't know the guy at all. He could be the guy you've always dreamed him to be or he could be a total jerk. You really won't know until you actually spend time with him.
Being an attractive girl (this is not to sound conceited, just necessary), I have had my fair share of guys stare at me. When a guy stares at you, it means he finds you attractive. Especially if you catch him staring more than once. Now, ideally, you would have all the confidence in the world and just go straight up to him and ask him out, but I know from experience that that's A LOT harder than it sounds, especially with a really popular guy. So here's my advice: when you catch him staring, don't break eye contact. Don't look down and blush. Stare back! Smile a little! "Eye flirt" with him so he'll get the hint. When you pass him in the halls, give him a little smile and "hey." Hopefully that will give him the confidence he needs to ask you out. Unless you do it first which could be totally hot. Guys love confident girls.
As for the question as to whether you're in love with him, I am unable to definitively say yes or no. Only you can say that for yourself, but I will say that I do not believe in real love at first sight or from a distance. I would call what you describe more of an "infatuation." I believe that love comes gradually: first you are physically attracted to a person, then you get to know them and like their personality and from there love will (or will not, depending) come.
Also, don't let yourself fall into the "oh he's so hot and popular and funny" trap and rely on him. Be your own woman! Do what you want! Don't let the other girls he's dated define how you act around him. I know this sounds cheesy, but if he doesn't like the real you HE DOESN'T DESERVE YOU. Make him laugh, be yourself, THAT'S how you start lasting relationships. Good luck! :)
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thank you so much. and i see him a lot tomorrow so maybe i'll actually be confident enough to say hey or something, thanks again :)
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