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why can't a guy text a girl without being a total creep? Every guy that texts me either want to have phone sex with me or talks about sex in general and asks me personal questions about my sex life. I'm a virgin. I plan on waiting atleast until I find the right person. I don't want to have phone sex with some random. I know the guys that are texting me, like they go to my school but I never talk to them in person. Why can't a guy just be friends with a girl? I'm 17 btw if that matter. I know that's all guys think about at that age but seriously how can they expect to get any if they're that creepy? I want a guy best friend, why is that so hard to find?!?! (link)
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Men are stupid. I say this as a guy myself. Maybe 10-15% of guys are both intelligent and aware enough to get social interaction, social cues, and what "tact" means early on.
The rest send you texts like that because they're giant children gleefully seeking sex like 6 year olds hunting for their favorite toy in a store. Some of them will never grow up, and will grow to hate women and likely die alone. Some of them will grow up and realize how stupid they are/have been and will fix it. Some of them will meet a girl who tolerates it/is a child too and they will be forced through the trials of being immature in a relationship to grow up.
Ninja's shotgun theory is more common in college. While some of them might be doing that in high school, the greater number simply do not know that shit like what you're getting is inappropriate. I've seen guys who actively want a romantic relationship try that approach because they don't know what the hell they're actually doing and don't see a problem with being stupidly forward.
Guy best friend...good luck. Rahzie's pretty much right. Most guys will interpret your desire for friendship as desire for more and constantly hope you miraculously decide they're worth sleeping with, even if they say they're fine with being just friends. They call this "Friend Zoning" and it basically means that a guy will be your friend and do things with/for you hoping it inspires you to sex, and that he's probably far too chickenshit to actually make his desires known.
Tell guys who are creepy that they're creepy. Point out "that's inappropriate, immature, and makes you incredibly unattractive to women" when guys think it's alright to ask personal questions and make sexual innuendos. And be clear in your intentions and expectations.
You can't really do much about the "nice guy". That's the guy above who gets friendzoned, often they will (if confronted) tell you that they aren't interested while going home and being angry that you don't see "the great guy right in front of you" and fall madly in love with them. This guy is often difficult to distinguish from a normal friend, watch out for excessive chivalry and volunteering to do things for you when outside a relationship.
Find a gay dude. At 17, the easiest way to make male friends is gay guys who simply aren't interested in having sex with you. Being guys themselves they can help you figure out the rest of us.
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