Hello Everyone. I am Kaci. I am 18. I may be young, but I can give some good advice. If you ever need anything at all, do not heistate to ask. I'll help the best I can.
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I am 19 and I've dated 2 guys. Technically, just one because the second didn't last very long. My first boyfriend I was very close to. We had problems but we were very fond of each other, went out for almost a year. I was 18 when we were together. When it comes to dating, I don't want to just date around for the fun of it, I want to pick someone worth being with, worth actually having a future with. The problem is, I don't really know guys like that. Also, the problem is that I'm not going to just date anybody. Religion and culture is very important to me because I was raised in such a family. It is of importance to me, so don't think it's not. I find myself attractive to guys of my same culture and religion as well, because it plays such a huge role in my life. The thing is with the guy I dated, he is of a family that holds my religion and culture, but he's not religious. Also, I am going off to either grad school or med school. I would like to be with someone of that educational standard. I mean, it's only fair to him and to me. These are just preferences, but I don't want to be the girl who has the secret love affair with the mailman, if you know what I mean. My first ex wants to go off to the airforce, and I am not holding him against it. My question is basically, should I hold on to him and forsake what I want in a guy? Or should I wait and further progress my life in the direction I want it to go in and then worry about finding the right guy? I am also not the kind of girl who has guys hitting on her all the time, so it's not easy for me to put myself out there. What should I do? (link)
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Well, you have to ask yourself if this guy is worth putting your beliefs and wants behind you. If you truly love him, what he wants to do with his life shouldn't be a problem.
But I understand that your religion and culture is very big part of your life. And I really respect that about you. But you have to understand finding a guy who shares the same amount of committment and love towards it will be kind of hard to find. If your religion and culture mean more to you than a guy who could be the one, than I say focuse on school, and wait for this guy to come to you. You never know, once you start school there will be plenty of guys who will share the same interest as you, and be getting a degree which is also what you want.
You just really have to think about the pro's and the con's and see which one balances out to fit what you truly want inside.
Good Luck!
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thanks for understanding. i guess i feel since i know theres one guy out there at least, i feel a little better. but he's going away soon so... i dont know.
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