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Hi! I'm 18/f & my boyfriend is 18/m; We have been together for a year, but it feels like so much longer. I'm in college, studying to be a NeoNatal Nurse; My boyfriend's mom left him homeless as soon as he turned 18, therefore he has been living with my parents and I since August.
Riley & I have both agreed that we shouldn't get married until I am done with college and have a stable job. I know we haven't been together long, but since we have been faced with a lot of adult problems, it seems like we work together well, and we have been together for years. I wouldn't mind if he proposed to me, because getting engaged doesn't mean you have to get married immediately. Right? My dad told him when he moved in, that he has 6 months to save up money from his job, and get his own place. So he moves out on Feb. 14th. He is really wanting me to move in with him; and I would, but the economy is so bad, I'd rather stay with my parents, because its free, and focuse on school and not have to worry about a job right now since I'm dealing with the toughest classes of the career at this moment.
But, what I'm trying to get at is, Riley says he doesn't want to get engaged until 3 or 4 more years, but he says that he knows I'm the one he will be with for the rest of his life. But why wait that long, if he supposively knows I the one for him? I'm not rushing him at all. I respect his decision; I'd rather him do it when he feels it right, instead of rushing, and regretting.
Hey,
Engagement can be a big mental move for guys, even when they're madly in love. You and Riley sound as if you two have a nice thing going. Maybe the two of you can come to a consensus as far as a good engagement season. Emphasize to him that engagement does not mean marriage is in the immediate future. Maybe you two can agree on a good engagement time that works for both of you. Being that he wants you to move in with him, he's more than likely sincerely dedicated to you. I think you're making the right move by taking you alls financial status quo into consideration. It can all be worked out and understood with a good heart to heart.
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Thank you so much for your time! I will talk to him about it. I have talked to him before, and he doesn't budge. He kinda makes it seem like it doesn't feel right to him, idk, But once again thank you.
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