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Hi, I am 17 years old, and I have come to the point where I don't want to live anymore. Every time I find someone I like and end up with him, the only thing he wants is sex. So then I have to let him go b/c I realize the sweet things he had said to me were only to get to me to have sex with him. My heart hurts so much every time this happens, b/c I always thought they were being true to me. My other issue is that there's this girl in school that is always jealous of me b/c I'm friends with her best friend. My family treats me like I'm some stranger in the house. My mom and dad yell at me everyday for no reason. I feel like my life is worthless, no one cares about me. Now I feel like there is no one in this world I can trust anymore. I'm an object for guys, a stranger to my family, and my friends are being pulled away from me by their other friends. There's nothing I can do. I don't want to live anymore, I just hate everything and everyone! (link)
Sounds like your having a midlife crisis in your teenage years instead of later in life. In a way you should be glad to get it out of the way now. I spent the last 3 years going through what your going through now and I'm in my 30s! I wish I would have gotten it over with sooner. Eventually you will get through it and be much stronger because of it. It will make you have more patience, understanding, independence, and strength.

I think the best thing you can do is to focus on you. You sound like a very sensitive person and that can lead to people taking advantage of you. Be leary of who you have relationships with because it sounds like you value them more than the people you currently are hanging out with. Realize that some people just aren't worth your time. It's ok to associate with people without having to give them too much of yourself. Look at what benefit people give you and just focus on that part of the relationship while your with them. It's kind of like using them but it's ok. They wont see it that way.

As for your family. I'm sorry to hear that your mom treats you that way. That is so wrong! I had similar situation growing up and it took me years to finally come to peace with it. I eventually realized that part of growing up is realizing that everyone is human and there are some ugly parts of life. It's a loss of innocence in a way. If your mother is having issues and taking them out on you and you've confronted her about it and have tried to make things better then there really isnt' much more you can do. Just realize that ur parents are human too and make mistakes. Don't blame yourself for everything. Sometimes you just get put in bad spots and you have to ride it out. You're in a bad spot right now but realize life if LONG and you will eventually be stronger for the troubles that you go through now.


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I appreciate this advice. Thank you, and yes I'm sensitive about a lot of things, not very good. I have been used by many guys for sexual things and I don't realize it until after the guy gets what he wants. It's difficult for me to just think of it all over again. I have been talking to my mother about my situations and she is actually helping me out! SO thanks again(:




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