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I am a stay at home Mom who has been dabbling in writing for 15 plus years. My works include: Poetry contest winner in 2005, answered questions with pay for e-how.com, and moderated a web forum. I have also written some short stories, none have been published to date. I have always been the person friends come to for advice, so I figured I may as well try this :) I welcome you to bring on ANY question. I am not shy or offended easily.

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hi im eighteen and i really want a tattoo. i mean ive been wanting one for like three years now. my mom she isnt against it she just thinks that im runing my body and well i live with my mom and my step dad and his the one that can get under my nerves i mean he always tell me that he doesnt want me runing my body and that kind of bull and no matter what i say to him he wont listen i mean this tattoo means a lot to me and im not talking about a huge one the tattoo is acutally very small he said i can get one when im twenty one what the hell? right i mean come on. and i know his not my real dad but he has been a dad to me for more the sixteen years so i respect him as my dad any way so his going on a business trip in a week for two in half weeks and i really want to get that tattoo now so that it can heal by the time he comes back but the problem is is that feel really guilty about lieing will if my mom knows then im fine but since ive never gotten a tattoo before i dont know if ill feel guilty or not i mean i need this tattoo even if it ruins my body or if ill regret it i want it. do you think i should get it done? my dad would never understand i mean ive tried for three years i asked him when i was fifteen and he said wait till im eighteen and then we can talk now here we are three years later and now its twenty one are you serious he will never approve and im sick of always being scared to take a risk. so should i get it or not?

I got 2 tattoos when I was 17, which I now regret at 29. You mention many times about the important nature of this tattoo to you, yet you do not say what it is. I cannot give sound advice without knowing what you want to ink your body with. I do believe tattoo's are art and would not hold back my 18 year old child from getting one.

Your question remains: Should you get the tattoo? It all comes down to respect. You live with your Mom and Step-Dad. Do you pay rent or buy your own food? Or do they continue to support you in all ways? Do you have a job? Things all to consider because if you don't pay your own way and have a job, you should esentially follow the rules while you live at their house. Being 18 does not mean you make the best choices, it means you can legally do what you want within the law. The fact you question yourself makes me think you know the answer but just want validation.

I would love to have more information to be able to give you more accurant advice. Thanks and good luck!

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(Rating: 5) wow thanks alot you really helped me. i decided not to get it you're right i love and respect my dad way to much to go behind his back. i'll just try to soften him up so he'll let me have one soon;) thanks alot.
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