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I am a sophomore in High School. I've liked this guy who is a junior. I'ved liked him for almost 4 years now. He knows i like him, but he doesn't seem to care. I see him in the hall, and he sees me. We only stare nothing else. I'ved tried talking to him on Facebook and he doesn't even and he doesn't answer me. I've had self esteem issues because of him, and i've gone to my school counselor. She says i should try and avoid him, but i can't. He's in my luch and he's everywhere. He's very popular. I can't get over him no matter what i do. And no matter what my friends say, or how many times they yell at me i'm still never gonna get over him. I've tried liking other people, but he's always still in the back of my mind. I mean he still looks at me, so what does that mean? he looks, but doesn't say a word. I DON'T wanna get over him. And he doesn't know how i feel, and i don't think he will ever understand how much i wanna get to know him and be with him. I feel like he's too good for me, and i'm just nothing to him. He's at the top, and i feel like i'm at the bottom. I don't get this kid, he's so confusing. No one understand how much i like this kid, honestly. People judge me for liking him, but i can't get over him no matter what i do. I think about him constantly. And i've always wanted to talk to him, or wear his football jersey, but i'm afraid and scared to talk to him. The last thing i want is to be turned down by him. I need advice, please :) (link)
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You've already given him plenty of openings to get with you. He obviously isn't interested, so it's time to move on. You don't like losing him to other women because women are all in competition with each other and there may also be a part of you that wants to elevate your profile at school by being with him. It's almost like a groupie type of thing. Your obsession with him isn't constructive and you are wasting a lot of emotional space on him, which has to be stressful for you.
So write him off and seek other guys. You should only define yourself according to yourself and not try to be somebody else. You can only be you and thus not liking yourself is a complete waste of time. Create your own party and be open to letting whoever wants to get on board with you do so. That is all you can do.
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Thank you so much for this advice, it really opened my eyes, thanks again!
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