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I'm 20 years old and I've been with my boyfriend whose 22 for over 5 months. We've had a few problems, mainly minor but so far things are going great.
There is one problem though when we're having sex he won't take off his shirt. Actually make it where he won't let me see him without his shirt period. I actually tried pulling up his shirt because I wanted to try something new, and as soon as I did that he pulled his shirt back down.
When I asked him if I could see him without his shirt off, he said no. I asked him "Why not? I'm not your girlfriend," again he told me no.
He's the only boyfriend of mine that I've never seen fully naked. He does have a lot of body issues, he's overweight from playing football and has never been able to take off all of the weight. I'm used to when I'm having sex actually getting to see the guy naked.
He loves me and I love him, we're both very much into sex. He's seen me naked and topless a bunch of times, I would like to have the opportunity to see him naked.
Is there anything that I can do to get him to feel more comfortable about taking his shirt off in front of me? (link)
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How long has it been that you have been in a situation with him where he wasnt taking off his shirt? 5 months?
I think it will obviously take time and hopefully by you reassuring him that you love him for who he is and not how he looks per se, he will eventually trust and come to take off his shirt.
Maybe mentioning one of your insecurities with him might help, empathize with him.
I would also tell him why I want to see him with his shirt off but not force him to. I'd tell him, that whenever he is ready, then that works with me.
At that point I would also mention and often enough remind the person that I care about them regardless if they have acne or are just plain overweight under their shirt.
It's a shame that people can feel so embarassed or ashamed of the way they look. He needs to find it in him to accept who he is under his shirt and feel okay in his skin, enough to expose himself to another.
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We started having sex probably a month into our relationship, and ever since then it's been like that. I've understood it partially because sometimes we've been in semi-public places, but when we're in his bedroom it should be fine.
I know that there's something there that he's not telling me, not sure if it has to do with his first relationship. I once asked him who told him these things whenever he's mentioned his body consciousness, he hasn't yet told me. He dated his first girlfriend for a year, he lost his virginity to her, and then after a year of dating she turned around and cheated on him.
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