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How do I get over the one that I love even though I was the one who broke it off. We were together for 4 1/2 yrs. I was tired of the binge drinking and the kids running the house. I never had a say in discipline or ne thing. They are not my kids but we were a family. I still love her and she is with someone. She says she still loves me but wants to give her current relationship a try. We have been broke up for 3 months andshe is all I think about. HELP. I want to heal.
Its hard to get over someone you love and there will probably always be a place in your heart for her, but you need to remember why you broke it off. The situation you were in may of been causing harm to you emotionally and you made the right decision for yourself. Now that you have been away for a while and the feelings you were feeling befor due to the drinking and kids are gone all you can remember is the love you have for her. Try to do things you used to enjoy doing by yourself or with friends(movies, games excercise-which is actually a natural anti-depressent) If you have lost contact with your friends, as that is what tends to happen during a serious relationship, try and rekindle old friendships. We are fortunate to have modern networking sites such as facebook and maybe you can get into touch with old friends. You will definatly make new friends as you get your own single life into gear again. We tend to loose ourselves when we are so into other people and I am confident that if you find your hobbies and interests again you will begin to start feeling love for yourself and even though you may still love her, that feeling wont be so dominant as you will be keeping yourself busy and feeling all these new emotions for new friends or new found interests. Good Luck and stay strong!
(Rating: 5) I left her and started a relationship with someone else all in the same day. Im still in love with her and its getting in the way. I just want to be over her. I never thought it would be this hard. I have told her that I wanted her back. But im not so sure that it would work.