As a girl myself, I can tell you that unfortunately we are often drawn to those tough, cocky guys even when we find them a bit ridiculous. Honestly? I think it's down to confidence. You need to be confident but not overly so.

You say that you 'kind of have no life' - well believe me, I know how that is as I'm in the same position at the moment, and the thing is, having 'no life' and keeping yourself to yourself stops you from meeting people and is a great hinderance to your love life.

I know that it can be difficult to start socialising and going out, because as I say, I'm trying to get myself to do the same at the moment, and as an introvert who has lost ties with friends, I mostly prefer to spend my time alone. I'm guessing it might be the same for you. However, you really need to do so. Do you have many friends? If you do, make an effort to hang out with them more. If not, try to make friends with acquaintances. Speak to people in your classes. Try and go to any parties you hear about. Join clubs. It may seem off topic, but doing these things will get you out there and you'll be more likely to meet girls in the first place.

Now, I'm going to be straight with you, I don't know you but what you have written here comes off as a bit snobby and narrow-minded. I understand that you're interested in topics such as politics and science, and you don't feel as if anyone else is, but do not assume that none of these girls you know aren't smart - plenty of girls who spend their time talking about things such as texting/tv shows are smart. The thing is, most people are smarter, more interesting and more deep than they appear. People are often scared to show these more true sides of themselves and so conversation tends to stay lighter.

I'm mentioning this because I think one of the reasons you might not be getting far with girls is because you're dismissing them before you get to know them - understand that there is most likely more beneath the surface and try to get to know girls before deciding they're not right for you. Take it slowly, though - if you start asking a girl a bunch of deep questions, she may be freaked out. You say that you talk to girls about the things you're interested in? I'd suggest starting out on lighter topics, because this means they'll be more comfortable with you - then maybe bring up things such as theories or politics, then more personal things. Talking in class about what you're currently studying could be a good idea, too.

Also, if you join clubs in things you are interested in, you may be more likely to find girls who are interested in the same topics.

I hope it goes well for you, and don't hesitate to message me if you want anymore advice!

Thanks, one of the most helpful answers I've gotten from this site. :)

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