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i am 18 years old,my girlfriend is 16... we have been together for 9 months now... on july 27th we decided to start having unprotected sex..since then we have had sex on Aug 4th,22nd,26th and now sept 5th and 6th ... she found out she was pergnant last month.. and she is in denials of keeping the baby ratherless telling her mom.. i love her soo much but i really won't like her to kill the baby.. even if its now forming... what should we do...

If you're emotionally, psychologically, physically and economically ready to bring another human being into the world then do. If you're unstable in any of these especially about the money part, then you might want to think and talk it over.

She's probably nervous, I mean think about it, apart from her body and hormones going into a frenzy of loops, it's pretty scary to be a 16 year old girl that's growing a tiny human inside.

So you should talk to her and her parents. See what they have to say, as well as yours. Now if you do decide to have your kid and money is scarce, there's quite a bit of help that can be provided by the state you live in, you'd have to call your local health clinic and they can provide help. Like Planned Parenthood. They would also help in a case you don't want to have a child, or keep it and such.

Most importantly your part as her boyfriend, are supposed to reassure her that you're BOTH in this TOGETHER! No matter what HER decision is. It' her body so mostly her decision.




Good luck.

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