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There was this girl let's call her Jessica. Jessicaa and I were best friends all of our high school years. We were glued to the hip and everyone at school knew we were like sisters. But when college started things got rockey for us. We drifted and soon she had a new bes friend. It hurt and stuff but I tried to let go. Jessicaa posted pictures of her new bff on fb, she introducted her bff to her parents and family(something she never did with me. I don't reaally know why). I saw how her and her bff started getting new college friends aand Jessica started doing the saame things her bff did. I felt replaaced and put down. Jessica was still hanging out with our commen friends but she wouldn't give me aa call or something. But recently she has started contacting me aagain. She told me she misses me and even that she loved me. Inside my head I waas like "how could she say she loves me? Love isn't ignoring someone. And we haven't talked in years, she doesn't know how much I've changed. It caaant be love" I don't know if I should let her back in my life. You seee Jessica and I are really different. She is of a differnt sociaal class, she's got the rich life while i can barly make ends meet, she's been the one to have more luck with guys then me, are religous beifs are different aas well. I don't know. Should I keep the contaact with her? Paart of me misses what we've had but aanother part tells me shell dump aagiaan, like nothing when she she finds someone better. I don't know what to do. What do you think?

If she did it once, she'll do it again. I dont want to make hasty assumptions but there is probably a motive behind her all of a sudden friendly reach-out. ask yourself why she is trying to be your friend right now. what is she going to get out of it? maybe her new friends fell through or shes not getting a long with them? whatever. like you said, if her feelings about you were actually genuine then she would have kept in contact with you from the start and not gone years without talking. it just seems fake on her part. forget all the little details and boil it down to its simpliest form: you had a close friend, she hurt you and replaced you. now she wants you back? where was she when you needed her?

i realize what you had in highschool was special, but neither of you are in highschool anymore. you have both changed, probably for the better. trust the fact that you deserve a true friend, not some fair-weather friend that comes around when convienant to her. i wouldnt be rude to her, but be carefull to let someone like that back in your life. you'll find yourself getting hurt again.

and if your still torn on whether to befriend her again or not, imagine you had a daughter who was in this situation. a daughter whom you loved more than life. would you want your daughter to have a friend like that? that may be your answer.

hope i helped

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(Rating: 5) Thank you, your advice was like cold water thrown to my face, I didn't waant to hear the cold truth cuz its hurtful but its the truth none the less and it woke me up. Thanks.
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