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I'm 16 and next week I'll be back in school ;//

I'd like to know..how many of you graduates from high school..got THREW high school? How was it for you?.. I'm shy and I'm a self concious person.

I get nervous before every new year, ;// This will be my Sophmore year so I have a couple more years left.

My boyfriend done with school and so is my brother.. I wish I was.

I'm also nervous because I'm not good in math..and I'm taking an advanced English class..and I don't want to be surrounded by "know it all people"..all my classes last year (but 3) I had no one to talk to ..so ;//

Anyone know what I mean? Please give me some tips!

Thanks!

ohh gosh.. high school. yuck. For some people its the best years of their life. Mine.. not so great. Lets just say I felt invisible almost every day. I was in the same boat as you. Couldn't wait to get the hell out of there haha. I'm actually moving into college next week and I guess you could say I'm nervous. I think everyone gets nervous or at least anxious before a new school year. Its normal :) It just means you're ready.

Don't worry about classes or making friends. It just adds extra stress and pressure on you. My best advice for you is just take it easy. I can't explain enough how stressed I was during high school. But to be honest, it could have been SOOO much easier. I was way too hard on myself. I'd push myself to do better in school, even though I had a 3.75 GPA.. I pushed myself to make more friends and get popular (even though I only had 1 best friend). I pushed myself to wake up earlier every morning and look my absolute best. It was tough. Some days i'd be so exhausted that I would literally wake up, throw on sweats, get out the door. I felt comfy and ok but as soon as I walked through the doors I felt sloppy and had low self esteem.

So yes.. high school was tough for me. And i'm sure it will be tough for you. But guess what? I made it. And so will you. I've never heard of anyone dying because they couldn't handle high school haha. But I have a big piece of advice for you.. live it. Live high school. Take it easy. Don't stress out over stupid things like cliques or who to sit by at lunch. Things like that will just happen naturally. Most importantly.. live in the moment. I was always living in the past or future. Worrying about past mistakes like my Calc test I failed. Or the future like that speech I had to give in english a few days later. But now that I look back at it... I kind of miss it. I regret a few things. If I could go back, I would definitely appreciate high school more and live in the moment. So many days I would think to myself "ok just get through the next few days and then its the weekend". But literally during graduation, as I was looking at all my classmates, I thought to myself.. where the hell did time go?? I got so caught up over useless things and never really appreciated high school. I'm going to miss those pep rallys before our football games, I'm going to miss my principal saying hi to me in the hallways. I won't miss the homework or the lame high school rules.. but you shouldn't look at the negative stuff otherwise you'll never appreciate the good things.

I'll leave you with 1 last thought.. what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger. Yes high school was tough for me. But I survived. I learned from my mistakes and I learned more about myself. It has made me a stronger person and now I can't wait to go to college and do it all over again haha.

Just remember- live in the moment and appreciate it.. because before you know it, you'll be sitting in that graduation chair with your cap and gown thinking "where the hell did time go?". Time really does go by fast. You don't have much time, so make the most of it. Live everyday as if it were you last. No regrets and appreciate the time you have left as a high schooler.

Good luck and inbox me if you have any more questions or thoughts! :)

PS: I was shy and self conscious like you. I didn't have many friends. but now I'm realizing that I regret that. I wish I could have been more outgoing and experience new things. Just be yourself and things will happen naturally. Don't be afraid to speak up and have fun :)

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