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So I have a problem.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now (our anniversary is monday) and I absolutely love him! We had a rocky past but everything is going great now. Our past was rocky because I caused some trouble by still being in contact with my ex, and my boyfriend found out and thats when things got worse. But I fixed them and no longer in contact with any exs. However, a few days ago I found out that he's still facebook friends with his ex. I know nothing is going on between them because the last time he spoke of her was the beginning of our relationship and I trust him and know he wouldn't cheat on me. But I can't stop thinking that he has some kind of connection with his ex, even if it is just facebook friends. I don't know why but it just bothers me so much. I haven't been able to stop thinking about it for the past few days. And i've noticed that whenever I do think about it, I get a sickening stomach ache feeling. It makes me a little upset that he's still facebook friends with her. I'm not facebook friends with any of my exes.
In fact, one time I had some pictures of me and my ex (it was prom pictures) and my boyfriend got jealous/mad and was uncomfortable with the pictures. It gave him bad memories of our past. So I was kind enough to delete those pictures because I knew he felt uncomfortable with them. Now i'm uncomfortable with something (him still being facebook friends with his ex) but i really don't know what to do.
I feel like this is so juvenille and childish... to get uncomfortable that he's facebook friends with his ex. Am I making this a big deal when its not? Should I talk to him about it? Another thing you should know is that my boyfriend can get angry very easily. Like I said earlier- our 1 year anniversary is coming up on monday. I'm scared that if I bring this problem up, he might get angry because its so juvenille and then our 1 year anniversary would be terrible because he would be mad at me. So i'm not sure if I should mention it or not because I guess it is a little childish problem but it still bothers me.
And another thing, if I didn't talk to him about this, I think it would really get on my nerves. I'm not the one to "forget" about something like this.. I think it would haunt me and especially on our anniversary, I wouldn't get as pleasant feelings. I guess i'm just scared to bring it up because I fear that he will get angry because its such an immature problem. I don't know what to do :( I love him and don't want him to get mad at me over something like this. But still it irritates me that he is facebook friends with her. (link)
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Dont worry about it... not childish at all .. its just simple logic... you guys are going out and its you two that matter none of your past... he got angry at you and jealous for pictures and keeping in contact with YOUR exes... STAND YOUR GROUND.. tell him straight off the bat... I deleted my exes and I dont talk to them or have any pictures of them because you mean the most to me.. so now its really bothering me (if its bothering you and hes a good boyfriend he will understand you because no good boyfriend wants their girlfriend to be bothered by anything) so then you tell him you want him to do the same to delete his ex off his facebook and everywhere else like you have.. so then he wont have to get angry again due to your exes and all.. if he respects you he wont get mad and he will just delete it... plus its your anniversery and if he cares about it he will do it in honor of your guys anniversery so that you guys wont have any problems and no stress involved.
He would be acting very childish if he got angry over it.. its fine , plus do it asap , like today!!!
good luck :)
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