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Hi I am a female, 17.
My boyfriend is 19.
We both work I work days and his schedule is all over the place. He works usually 7 to 1 or 7 to 5 but somedays he'll work 7 to 7. I work 7 to five.
I don't have a phone it has been broken for nearly a month. I text him on my breaks from my friends phone since she works at my work too. He replies maybe half the time. I ask him usually when I will see him again. Well he usually says he's tired from work and sometimes he's already busy. Well whenever I can't get a hold of him and I know he is off work I just go to his house and surprise him. He never seems to mind and we usually end up falling asleep. Well whenever I want to do something big I ask him at least a week in advanced. I asked him to go camping with our friends and I and he said he had work so I didn't mind. He told me we'd plan another trip but when I asked him about it he said we weren't going to. And every year my friends and I go to California during Christmas break for 5 days and I invited him. My best friend is dating his best friend so I thought it would be fun for us four to go. I asked him and he said he couldn't get work off when it's several months away. Well I told him I am tired of us sitting around at his house and never doing anything and how I want to go out every now and then. He said he is socially uncomfortable. I told him not to keep making up excuses and how I just want us to do exciting things now and then. Of course he never replied so I told him to think about it and that I adored him. He always complains about me not having a phone to talk to him but when I do text him he never replies, and he never ever replies when I ask to hang out. I told him I wanted him to meet my family and he refuses, and I told him we're not going to have sex again until he at least meets my nieces and nephews since they are only here for the summer and I won't see them again until next summer. When I told him that he said he wasn't even going to kiss me, and now when I sleepover he won't kiss me or even touch me unless I get really upset and roll to the other end of the bed. I just don't get him lately. When we first got together he always wanted to do things and hang out and he seemed very interested. I see him maybe 2 times a week. We've been dating three months.
Is this because of his schedule or me being upset with him. How do I get him to become more interested in me. (link)
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I hate to break it to you, but he is an introvert and you are a pain in the ass. I personally hate it when girlfriends try to either schedule play dates for me because she wants me to be as social as her or she wants her friends/relatives around all the time when I couldn't give two shits about them.
Also, holding sex hostage with the terms that he has to be social with your nieces is beyond inane. To me, that is a deal breaker and I would boot you so fast your head would be swimming for the next week.
I also think that you tend to find his lack of real availability and his being so difficult oddly attractive, which provokes me to ask you about your relationship with your dad: was he also emotionally or physically unavailable when you were growing up? Women often tend to repeat their experience with their fathers in who they choose to date.
Look, either accept him for what he is or break up with him and find someone who is far more social than he is. But don't force march him at emotional and sexual gunpoint through your family and your friends.
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I wasn't"holding sex hostage from him" He agreed to it because He thought I'd break, I only tried to schedule dates on our anniversaries, he'd schedule things then fall through on them, and he forced me to meet everyone in his family including nieces and cousins yet he refused to meet mine.
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