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20/F I have a friend that I met at a place we both used to work. Now that we don't work there anymore, we never see each other because we live like 3 towns over. When we do see each other, it's always a let down. I never have as much fun as I anticipate I will. We're just so different. He's extremely social and likes to hang out as a group, but I like to hang out with people exclusively. The sad thing is, even when it's just him and I, which I usually prefer in a friendship, I'm so bored...I feel like I'm getting nothing out of our friendship, he's a really nice person, but I feel like I'm wasting time and effort. Should I just avoid his phone calls? Just because he's nice doesn't mean I'm obligated to be his friend...Am I right? Opinions, please? (link)
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Here is how you need to think about this, dude, because it is dead true:
Friends have different uses (you may not like the way I put that, but it's a fact if you're honest with yourself) and the nature of your relationship can change over time depending on how the context of that friendship evolves. You obviously aren't in the same place as he is, which is fine, but you have to live your life according to what makes you personally happy and not be guilt tripped into being hindered by others.
So you need to just start blowing the guy off. He will stop coming around once he has been rebuffed enough. Your friendship ran its course. It happens. Don't overthink this.
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Rating: 5
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Thanks! You gave me really solid advice =D
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