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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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so my step dad and mom live together ad married but wont say happily. just the other day we got in a argument and he called meh a bixxh and told meh he wants meh out his house im 16 and where am i supoze to go.. my mom said he cant put meh out but i want to go. the thing is just two years ago he had told my sister and my brother this and they moved now he tells meh. and im pretty sure hes going to tell my younger siblings this soon. the crazy part is that his dather iz 21 and she still lives there and he say i have to live when im 18 . how could i tell my mom he just dont like none of her kids and hes trying to get rid of us all

As a mother myself my children come first before any and everything and everyone. It is her duty to protect her children and it seems to me as if she has chosen her husband over you all. Blended families are dificult at times especially when the children are older but when your mother first got into this relationship she should have been able to judge this guys character and should have been able to tell if this guy loved her children which he clearly does not or has a funny way of showing it.

I would definately talk to your mother if I were you and explain how you feel. If she doesn't make changes for the betterment of you and your other siblings then you might want to go somewhere else where you are loved and appreciated. Life is too short to be miserable and to made to feel unwanted.

Did you tell your mom when he called you a bitch? That is completely unexceptable. He is a grown man and should know better. I have a feeling that things aren't going to get much better sorry to say. If he has already forced your other siblings out and your mom is fine with that there is nothing keeping him from continuing. You're going to have to just stay strong and do the best you can. But know that you don't deserve to be treated this way. This guy is completely in the wrong. When he married your mother he was marrying into a family not just a single woman and now he wants to change things around. You were here first, you are still a minor and should be taken care of not pushed aside to make him feel good/happy whatever the case is. He is selfish and I can't fathum as a mother why your mom as allowed this to go on at all.

I'm so sorry you are dealing with all of this.

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(Rating: 5) thanks good advice but yeah i always talk to her about these things but she ends up telling him about it and saying tha he has reasons to do that its like she taking up for his side but im about to move with my boyfriend so i hope i wont have to deal with this any more
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