Hey everyone! Im Millie O'Conner. Im 18, im a Christian, and I live in Chicago. I decided to start giving advice on this page so that people wouldn't make the same mistakes I've made throughout my life. Im willing to answer any questions people ask me about life. My fave quotes are "Life is too short to be anything but happy", and "What is meant to be will find its way." Don't hesitate to ask me advice! :)
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There is something in my mind that always wants me to want attention.
I used to cut myself, and in a way that was my way of craving attention from friends etc. I have stopped that now, but I'll say something that causes attention to myself and put something in a sentence that will obviously cause attention to myself.
How can I stop craving this type of attention? Basically I can say I don't think before I speak.
Can someone just help me because this time I can't answer a question on my own. :/ (link)
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I know how you feel. I used to feel this way as well. When I started making more popular friends, I wouldnt eat in front of them, and they got an impression that i was somehow anorexic. I really wasn't, but they thought it was kind of cool. Im now 18, and when i look back im ashamed of how I wanted the wrong kind of attention. Cutting yourself, starving yourself, and dressing innapropriately will make you feel like finally someone is looking at you, but this will only last for seconds. Remind yourself that cutting yourself is definitely not cool. You are hurting yourself, and it shows people that you have no confidence in yourself and this will cause them to look down on you. If you cant help wanting attention, get the right kind. Confident people who love themselves get a lot of attention. They are looked up to, and mny other girls want to be able to love their flaws like they do. For example, dressing nice can get people to notice you. I definitely do NOT mean dressing like some skank. I mean, not provocative, but cute. I just love cute clothes. Cool shoes, nice scarves, and well-painted nails will bring you tons of compliments and attention, which will feel good and actually last I do not mean expensive stuff, but just cute simple things you can mix and match. Caring about how you look is not a sin, but obsessing over it is. It's always good to look nice and polished, but its more important to love yourself on the inside. Every morning remind yourself that you are beautiful because you are a creation of God, and thank him because you have arms and legs, which some people don't. Imagine not having arms and legs? Walking around school like that? Doesn't that make you ever so thankful and help you feel beautiful? Im not saying that people who dont arent beautiful, cause the definitely are. But always be super nice to people and compliment them on everything. A smile will get you a long way. This way people will like you more, and this is the type of attention that is worth getting. Good luck.
-Millie :)
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Thank you so much!
That makes a ton of sense. (:
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