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So, a few weeks ago I met this guy and we clicked from the very beginning. Mentally more than anything honestly. We decided to kinda jump the gun and be with each other, so we would purely be one another's. One weekend a couple of my friends and I went to his place after a bbq to drink and hangout. To summon it up,later in the night, I left to go get smokes and what not down at the 711 and when I got back..one of my friends was sitting on the bed with him and she kinda shot up once I had entered.
I went outside and she followed me, stating that my boy tried kissing her. At that moment I left in a drunken rage, passed out somewhere for a bit, and came back to his place to see him passed out with beer all over his bed. I finally got him to wake up and we talked the rest of the night/morning. He admitted he has a past with cheating and couldn't believe he already fucked up with me. He cried a lot, explained some. I told him in the end he has to prove himself to me, to show I can trust him. I'm giving him a second chance because I've done wrong in the past too when I was drunk, and I never got a second chance. Him having a history is what puts me off, but supposedly "I'm the one who he wants to change for".
After all that, a week or so later he introduced me to a bunch of his friends, including a lot of his family, which meant a lot, seeing how he's actually a very family orientated guy. He also cut back on the drinking for me, like he said he would, since he knows alcohol just doesn't mix well with him, at least too much.
And now, he's out with his family again for 6 days, he took the time off since his mother is visiting from out of state for two weeks. I haven't really heard from him the last two days, and the last day we spoke he was a bit short with me to an extent, he didn't even get back to the last two texts I had sent him.
There's a lot more to be said, but I've already said a lot, I think this guy has a good heart really, or maybe I'm a fool. My mind is spinning, I'm just so tired of head games and heart ache. I need some advice, please.
-Jess (link)
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In my experience once a cheater always a cheater. If he really does care for you and wants to make it work he will put forth an effort to show you, which it sounds like he has. But if he truly does have a problem with cheating he will do it again. Not to say he doesn't care for you, want to be with you, or that it will have anything to do with you at all but he will still do it. Since the relationship is new you can give him a chance, but if there are any further issues I would move on. Hope this helps.
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Rating: 5
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Thank you, that does make very logical sense. In a way it's put me a little at ease about myself, but my guard is still up with him. Just because yes, I do believe once a cheater always a cheater as well, but that's why he's getting another chance. Hopefully he'll be the man I hope he is, thanks again.
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