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Hello all. I am a 36 year old married mother of three boys. I have my degree in Forensic psychology and business management- human resources, I work in social services while juggling my three children and a marriage. When I originally joined this community I was excited to get back into what I love and that is helping people through listening, understanding, and guidance. However I quickly found that through my desire to help others, others are helping me. I have found my advice column beyond rewarding. I have found myself getting extremely passionate about each and every question that I read and respond to. The more the questions the greater the connection I have found between people of all walks of life, ages groups, races, gender, and religion. What I have found to be our greatest bind is love. Love for others and the love of being loved.

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Let me just start out by saying, I am a firm believer in God. He is my life, and I love him so much. :D But, you see, I was raised in a Christian household. I grew up being told that Jesus was my savior, and God was my Father. I never questioned anything. Until now. I am known amongst my friends as the religious one, the one they know to NEVER offer a drink or cigarette to. Ever. ;D I have strong ideals of what is right and wrong, and a strong conscience, of which I believe to be God guiding me. So being known as that person, my friend not long ago once came to me with a dilemma, asking me all these questions about Jesus, God, etc. I had not the slightest clue of how to answer. All my faith in Him wasn't born, it was always there. I hadn't been convinced of his presence. There was never any question. So therefore, I have no facts or anything. No shield against the questions of curious people! I only have/need love, and feelings of His presence to convince me. You can't really debate with feelings, lol. Anyway, I've recently realized; All these years of just assuming and stuff, and only dealing with God, I have no idea what the Holy Spirit is! I also have no relationship with Jesus. Which has made me realize: I'm a lukewarm. I'm a poser. I've gone through my life believing I was a true christian, and now it's sorta hit me like a ton of bricks. So after all those words, here's my question: How are all three really connected? Are Jesus and God the same thing? But, why did Jesus refer to God as "The Father" if he WAS God? If they're all the same thing, what's the point of having three different things? I'm so confused. I pray to God like he's my best friend, and my dad. We're pretty tight. But when it comes to Jesus... I don't understand! When I pray to God, am I praying to Jesus too? But the Bible says if I don't know Jesus, I might as well not know God. So according to the Bible, it doesn't matter that I trust and believe in God as much as I do if I don't have a relationship with Jesus? I mean I know Christ is the only way but... UGH. -Face/palm- I've looked it up on Google, The Father, Son, and Holy Spirit thing? But I've only gotten either huge, complicated answers, or useless historical answers. I've prayed to God about it, and I think Advicenators is where He's telling me to go to. I need a human to human ANSWER, ya know, that ANSWERS my question? So can someone simply answer my questions without any unnecessary crap or anything, like stupid Wikipedia? LOL. Thank you, my sanity depends on you! OH, side question, when I'm worshiping God in song, this unknown wave of emotion flows in my chest, and all my questions fade away, and it's as if He's looking down on me, and it's calm and serene... Is this rational, and normal? My brain's not making that up, is it? xDDD!

I felt the same way you did. I was adopted at age two and my family was already a Christain family so I basically dove right in. I never knew anything about other religions just that I am a Christian and thats what you have to be to be saved. It wasn't until I got married, had a family of my own, and started struggling through life that I truly found Jesus for myself. I think you are doing a great job. You don't demand respect you COMMAND respect from your peers in that they know not to use certain language around you or suggest certain activities in your presence or what have you. That says a lot.

Ok, the Holy Spirit. I believe that the Holy Spirit is kinda like an invisible guide. You know that feeling you get from music? I get that same feeling. I think thats one instance where we encounter the Holy Spirit. Noone can take that away from us. God gave us the Holy Spirit because we go through alot of crap day in and day out. Society pulling at us every "which a way" but that feeling we can't describe God gave to us to hold us to keep us to remind us. But as I said the awesome thing about it no body can take that. It's a feeling that unless you felt it you won't understand. Another example might be lets say you had the worst day, you're hungry, tired, and it's hot. You are in the worst mood but then you see a little old lady slip and fall. You rush over to her and help her up and make sure she's ok. Well you totally forgot (at least at that moment) about all your troubles. You were concerned for the little old lady. Thats the Holy Spirit. What else can change your mind, your heart to look outside yourself to care for another in the midst of your own problems?

Now Jesus, I think although God and Jesus are One. God has us to pray to him through Jesus Christ for this reason; Jesus was put on earth to save us from our sins right. Ok, but Jesus was also made into a real man. He needs to eat, drink, and sleep. He has real feelings, emotions, love, caring, compasion cries, hurts, and sorrow. So I think God wants to show us that although times are tough we can make it. Jesus did and so can we. Also to be a Christian is to be CHrist like correct. If Christ is God I'm wondering are we supposed to live right ask for forgiveness to be one with the Lord as well? Do you think God's whole plan was to make humans to be part of him. I don't want to cross a line and say we are God, because clearly we are not but do you think that was God's intent for all to be one with him as Jesus is?

You have opened my eyes up to a lot of questions I didn't even know I had and even some ahha momments I think. WOW! I think trying to answer your questions has helped me more than I have helped you. lol

Please let me know if this helped and I'd love some feedback regarding my last question about being one with God.

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(Rating: 5) I'm glad you understand how difficult it can be to just grow up out of the loop. xD! It's good to know I'm not alone. Oh and thank you, I've worked hard in building that reputation amongst everyone. 8D

Your explanation of The Holy Spirit made sense! I was happy. Now I actually get it. xD!

And in regards to your last question, no I don't think we ARE God either, but I think that he wants to unite us all, and that's why Jesus will return again. I don't however think he wants us to be ONE with him. But that's just my opinion.

Thank you so much, I know my questions were probably difficult to answer, and I didn't expect this much feedback! I know if I had seen my question, I would've had to pass on it. But thank you for answering my questions. Haha, I'm so glad my questions also helped you too! xD!

Oh, and some clarification on one thing, when I pray, who am I praying to? God or Jesus, or both?

Thanks!

Rachel
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