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Am I emotionally cheating? I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and everything has been great. But there's a new guy I work with that I keep thinking about. What do I do? I don't want to think about or like this guy I work with, but for some reason I'm attracted to him. I still have feelings for my boyfriend though and I for sure want to be with my bf. What do I do? I don't want this to sabotage my relationship- I'd never cheat on my boyfriend physically but am I being dishonest to him by having another guy on my mind? (link)
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No, it is not cheating.
Cheating would be, well, cheating. Being sexually intimate with him. Being emotionally intimate with him. Flirting seriously with him. I don't think flirting is wrong so long as you're not actually interested in the people with whom you flirt. Some people just like being flirts when it's harmless.
When you really kinda like the guy, it's not.
Unshared thoughts are not cheating. They're really no one else's business but yours. If the guy at work realizes you like him and responds, then you tell your boyfriend and figure things out from there.
It's lust. Lust is magnetic. Put two people of appropriate sexual orientation and gender in a room together, and get their emotional defenses lowered, and attraction is a fairly common result.
Love is about who you choose to be with.
Plus... Well, I can't speak for guys in general but as a guy I feel like I'm wired that way. I can't help but look. We use attractive interchangeably with "stunning" for a very specific reason. It's fun to be stunned once in a while. As long as that's all it ever is, it's really somewhat beyond your control.
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