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I'm twelve years old and my sister is fifteen years old. I also have two other sister.Me and my fifteen year old sister are always fighting she always teases me and then I yell at her. We just never seem to get along. How do I stop? I don't want to be hating her when I'm and adult.
It's tough when your older sister is the one fighting with you. At fifteen, she's expected to be the mature one. But of course, teens have all those raging hormones and they can be really grouchy a lot of the time.
I would suggest trying to talk it out with her, in private. Getting other people involved would probably just make her defensive and even more irritated with you. Talk to her and tell her you don't want to fight with her. Tell her that her teasing bothers you, and when you yell at her it's because she's frustrated you to the breaking point and you don't know how to deal with it other than yelling back at her. Because really, we all snap sometimes when we get mad, and having someone tease you constantly is a pretty good reason to get upset. Even if the two of you don't become best friends or anything, maybe the two of you can at least stop fighting so often. And if you think she might not let you finish explaining (as in, cut you off at the beginning of your explanation to tease you more) you could try writing a letter and then talking to her after she reads it. At least then she'll probably hear everything you have to say before she can react to it in front of you.
Also, I will say again... Teenagers can be really moody creatures sometimes, and being rude to their family is a big part of that. Even if you fight now, she'll probably be nicer to you once she matures a little bit. I constantly fought with my parents when I was 14-17 years old, but now that I'm 19 we have a pretty decent relationship. If my relationship with my parents turned out okay, I'm sure the relationship with your sister can turn out okay, too.
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