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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this? (link)
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I understand that its embarrassing, but try not to look at it as a bad thing. Look at it as two people who were hurting about breakups finding some comfort with each other. I don't think it needs to be a secret, you didn't do anything wrong, but that's up to you. You don't need to advertise it, but if he tells someone, so what? Like I said, just look at it as two friends who needed to connect with another person to ease the loneliness just a bit. You did it, its over and you have nothing to be ashamed of. You're not attached to anyone. You're single and so is he and so you made out one night? Big deal. Don't think so much about it. I think the fact that you are so desperate to keep it a secret makes it feel worse than it actually was. If someone asks you about it you can just say yeah, something happened, but it was a private thing and I don't want to talk about it. End of story. Don't worry, as time moves forward this will get easier and easier. Keep yourself busy and try to put it out of your mind. You didn't do anything wrong. Good luck!
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