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Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this? (link)
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I'm sure he'd appreciate the disgust.
Will things change? No idea. That involves alot more knowing who you two are and what you're like and alot less guessing over the internet.
The only way you'll find out is to talk about it. I mean, maybe you both have feelings, maybe just one, maybe you're both just missing being with someone and went for a little intimacy with someone you trusted. Regardless, you need to chill out about him telling someone and just communicate with him without any other concerns. Who cares if he tells someone? I mean, you obviously, but why does it really matter?
If you want to figure out more about this, start a conversation and make your feelings clear. If you love him as a friend and everything else was just you being lonely, then he kinda needs to know that. He might have some feelings for you, he might not, but if he does and you keep quiet he's probably going to lose his shit over it.
Address it now. Deal with the awkwardness and talk to your friend, figure out where you stand.
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