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If you read my former questions, you will see all about the abusive relationship I have with my babys father. While he remains jobless, he is getting better at being a father so I am giving him one last chance. He hasnt put his hands on me in a long time. But I feel like the damage is done and I can not love someone I have no respect for. Anyway, I used to talk to a guy named pete before BD and I started dating. I had stronger feelings for pete than BD but I didnt think the feeling was mutual. 3 months into me and BD's relationship, pete told me how much he liked me and how gorgeous I was to him and how he is sad he never said anything. well three years later I have a baby with BD and always wonder what could have been.
I have nice dreams about pete, how it couldhave been but last night I had the most lucid dream about him I have ever had about anything.
We started hanging out again (we still talk bc we work together....but we dont hang out like we used to) and our feelings for eachother returned. We were so comfortable and at peace in eachothers grasp. It felt like he was saving me from the hell I am living in. He loved my daughter. He loved me. But it was all a secret...eventually BD puts the pieces together and leaves me, but I had no sadness, just joy. I am just unsure what this dream meant. I know I would never jump into another relationship right off the bat, and I doubt Pete still has these feelings for me. It was just the feeling of the dream was unlike anything I have ever experienced....it was just nirvana. I just want to know what it is telling me. (link)
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I think you secretly wish someone would come and whisk you away from the awful relationship you are in right now. Your mind is telling you that you are too scared to be alone, and if only someone else would come along to love and protect you, you could finally get out of your current relationship. The old crush is just someone on your mind. I don't think he is really the issue. I think you need to ask yourself why it is you need another man to rescue you from a situation you obviously don't want to be in. If you love your daughter you will be the example for her of the kind of life you hope she has someday. If you stay with an abuser, statistics are pretty much clear that she will end up with an abuser too. If you jump from man to man, she will grow up to do the same. Think of your daughter and do your best to become the woman you hope she will be someday. Its the most loving thing you can do for the both of you. I think that's what your dream means.
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Out of the 5 places I have posted and had answers, this is the most helpful, thankyou
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