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Hey :)
okay. I have been with my wonderful boyfriend for 2 months now. We are very close but i am still a virgin as i don't want to rush things. He has admitted to me that he wants to go further but is very caring and patient :) recently we got into a conversation about what would happen if i ever got pregnant,and when i asked him if he would stand by me, i was shocked at how hesitant he was to reply. He came out with things like, 'i'd probably jump off a cliff' and 'i don't know'.
I think it's an honourable thing for a man to stick by his baby's mama and even though i'm not planning on losing my virginity or getting pregnant any time soon, it still bums me out to hear him say that :( should i let it pass as a joke or doubt his character? (link)
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I'm 26 and married and I still get nervous and twitchy when my wife brings up kids. "Standing by your baby mama" isn't something most guys want to contemplate when there are other options and we are in a two month relationship being asked that question by a virgin.
You feel you're in a position to doubt his character because you're a virgin teenager who has absolutely no real idea what child-rearing, pregnancy, etc are like. It's harder for him because unlike you he's actually got a level head when it comes to being a teenage parent (it scares the shit out of him)
Two months in that's a loaded question to ask someone. You apparently haven't even got the beginnings of a clue how loaded it really is. Children generally last a lifetime, there's absolutely nothing abnormal about anyone being ambivalent about their own reaction to a surprise pregnancy.
Also, are you approaching this from the ideal that if you ever got pregnant you're definitely keeping it? Because personally before you have sex those are views you need to share. He has a right to break it off or not sleep with you if you are of the opinion that any baby you have is being kept and abortion or adoption are not options and he has a problem with that.
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Ok ya know what, you're right. It's not like i randomly brought the question up though, we were in a conversation about it. But you're right,2 months is like nothing at all and i'm stupid for asking. If i was him i'd probably say the same thing. Thanks xx
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