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I am a somewhat shy girl. I'm not the type of person who likes to stand out from the crowd, and whenever I do, I get shy and embarassed. I blush a lot when the topic is always about me. I feel awkward when i'm the only one talking and a lot of eyes are on me. I get nervous and I just have no confidence in myself. I get dressed in the morning and leave for school and feel so boring. I don't feel pretty most of the time, even though my boyfriend says i'm beautiful. I walk down the hallways and see girls that have so much confidence. For example, there will be girls wearing skirts and heels to school.. i could pull that off but I would have no confidence in myself. Instead of walking with confidence, I would feel shy and awkward.
I guess what i'm trying to say is.. I want to be able to walk in a room with my head up high with confidence and be proud of who I am. How do I attain that confidence in myself?? (link)
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Part of that isn't really about confidence, it's just personality type. You're a wallflower, just like me. In groups, at parties, I'm never the center of attention on purpose.
You want to hear a ridiculous story? In high school I played football all 4 years. Every practice we would go through warm up exercises led by one of the other players. The leader was whoever spoke up first, basically whoever started yelling instructions.
Completely informal proceedings, but if you were leading exercises you were expected to give it some energy to get everyone's blood pumping, start practice off with a little enthusiasm.
Always wanted to do it, never once stepped up and opened my mouth, except once. First game senior year when all the guys who used to do the leading had just graduated the year ahead of us, and there was a five second window where everyone kind of looked around wondering who was going to be the guy who got everyone warmed up and excited.
Never did it again after that, but I'm glad I managed to venture it once. I realized at that point that while I was never going to be someone who wanted to be up in front of a crowd, I wasn't incapable of being there in the first place.
Step outside your comfort zones. Wear some heels and a sexy skirt, and just do it for your boyfriend instead of for everyone else. Step into the role you feel like you want to play sometimes and give it a try. Hell, fail miserably if you have to. You can learn and try again another time, but the experience of stepping out isn't something to be avoided at all costs.
You'll learn a little about yourself and develop some of that confidence you feel you lack in the process. And remember, it's just high school. In a little while you can leave it all behind and become a completely new person again.
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thank you so much! that was great advice. I like your story about your football experience haha.
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